Actually, it depends on the type of girl. Completely dependant on the type of girl. If you were dating a female that's not particularly crazy about going out to the bar or into the party scene too much, and has other interests (rare female to find if she's also pretty) that she values much more then you living it up with your friends will do little to change her mind. She may go to the bar every once in a while, but she's not going impressed by anything you do there, because she'll see it for what it is, most likely.

On the other hand.

The pretty, partying clubbing girl is not one I'd chase after to get back with in the first place. She's usually pretty, but unsure of herself, and will probably make some silly decisions after her break up in an attempt to 'get over' you. She will be impressed by you 'having the time of your life (having another girl around you as pretty or prettier than her),' but it tends moreso to be due to her own insecurity.

Don't try the wrong things on the wrong girl, which means you're gonna need to know what type of person you're dealing with. and of course, there's many different type's of people

 

gotrice02, you are 27 years-old, right? I am 49. We see this differently as our experiences are different.

I speak from current and past experience. I am in a similar situation right now. I'm trying to decide if I want to force divorce that my husband filled for, but has since changed his mind about. I've already signed the divorce agreement but when it came time for him to sign it, he wouldn't. We separated once in 2001, for a month or two, and have now been separated for over 7 months again. Married 23 years on July 7th.

 

yes, I'm 27.

obviously, all situations are different. When children are involved things can be espescially tough. I remember a post of your sometime ago that said that you loved another man while you were married. If thats not an indicator of an unhappy marriage, I dont know what is. Personally, if my wife disrespected me like that I would have to end our marital relational. I couldn't cut her off completely and wouldn't because I am not a heartless person and we have a child together. If both of you REALLY want to try to work it out, I would say to set a goal of maybe 9 months of trying to re-kindle what you had. If you don't meet that goal, then maybe its time to throw in the towel. 23 years is a long time to be married, but what is the point of staying married if you are unhappy, I say move on.

 

the "disrespect" (as you call it), is a function of western society....

it would never be an issue in many non-white marriages. immigrant women know their "place"....i know my wife does.

 

I couldn't agree more with your last sentence. That's a good idea, about a time frame. So far it's been two weeks that we're hanging out again. Just so you know, my love affair was after he cheated on me once, and I took him back, and then ignored me completely for a year or more. He has no problem with what I did in reaction. He had a girl friend too while we were separated.

 

[QUOTE=Kyras,May 29 2007, 02:07 PM] I couldn't agree more with your last sentence.

 

I'm not judging you for the affair, I am just emphasizing the fact that your marriage was probably in shambles at that point. Try the 9 month thing and let him know that it will be over if you guys havent re-kindled by then

 

Wow, are you serious? Do older people have time for this shit?? I'm not sure what exactly you're talking about but the age thing is funny all by itself.

 

Dude you drive a S2000 for crying out loud!!! I am sure hooking up with a few hot random chicks, with the help of your S of course, will help you get over your ex

 

should "we" try again?

should "we" not try again?

etc.......

i would've thought that older people would be like "fuk this shit...get the hell outta my life...i'm gonna get me someone new."