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she's not really 'airing problems' on facebook because we don't really have problems (yet). she's adding "bumper stickers" to my profile. if you don't have a facebook you might not know, but it's basically a section of your page where people post small pictures that they choose from a list of thousands that are available. she puts these ones of guys and girls making out in awesome positions (i'll admit they're hot). i took them off because i don't want to let everyone who knows me know about me hooking up with her, but she acted foolish because of it. i put them back for a few days just to calm her down but i'm about to take them off again...
but my main issue is that she's trying to claim me for her own. i don't want her to think that i'm exclusive to her because although i like her, i am currently hooking up with 2 other girls and i don't want to have to lie to this girl by making her think that i am committed to her when i am not. i am a 100% honest person and my relationship with the girl i'm talking about was supposed to be open so that i wouldn't have to hide or lie to her about anything.
but my main issue is that she's trying to claim me for her own. i don't want her to think that i'm exclusive to her because although i like her, i am currently hooking up with 2 other girls and i don't want to have to lie to this girl by making her think that i am committed to her when i am not. i am a 100% honest person and my relationship with the girl i'm talking about was supposed to be open so that i wouldn't have to hide or lie to her about anything.
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Originally Posted by nightcrawler7188,Dec 25 2007, 01:53 PM
my experience.
from my experience, in an "open relationship," there is a mutual agreement in the beginning that there will be no exclusivity unless both partners were to agree upon it. but then eventually one person gets more attached than the other and you end up with hurt feelings. i'm currently in this situation and although it's not bothering me too much right now, i feel like in the next few weeks there's going to be some drama. it was a lot of fun hanging out and hooking up and what not when she wasn't attached but now i think she's starting to go against our agreement with public (facebook) displays of our relationship, pet names, and jealousy towards my other female friends, two of whom i'm somewhat involved with as well. the attachment and possessivenes she's expressing isn't fair to me, but i don't know how to break all of this to her. i'd feel horrible because i know that given her past experiences, she would take it VERY hard. and we do connect very well, although i don't feel very romantically attached to her.
open relationships ftw if the other person doesn't cross the lines.
from my experience, in an "open relationship," there is a mutual agreement in the beginning that there will be no exclusivity unless both partners were to agree upon it. but then eventually one person gets more attached than the other and you end up with hurt feelings. i'm currently in this situation and although it's not bothering me too much right now, i feel like in the next few weeks there's going to be some drama. it was a lot of fun hanging out and hooking up and what not when she wasn't attached but now i think she's starting to go against our agreement with public (facebook) displays of our relationship, pet names, and jealousy towards my other female friends, two of whom i'm somewhat involved with as well. the attachment and possessivenes she's expressing isn't fair to me, but i don't know how to break all of this to her. i'd feel horrible because i know that given her past experiences, she would take it VERY hard. and we do connect very well, although i don't feel very romantically attached to her.
open relationships ftw if the other person doesn't cross the lines.
Even then, you've got school to worry about. Catch your ladies when you can.
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Originally Posted by kurtis2k,Dec 21 2007, 05:42 PM
very ironic.
my girl and i just took a big break from each other because we want to experience a little more before we actually get married. we still see each other daily..and still of course enjoy each others company
it sucks..but she kinda gave me permission to sleep with another female..sucks for me because i gave her permission to sleep with another guy. i know i'm putting a lot on the line by doing this and we have agreed if and when we actually do go threw with it we will both be tested..it don't matter if a condom was or wasnt used her ass and my ass is getting tested!!
i know we both just want to experience a lil bit more of what life has to offer.. i know by doing this it puts our future relationship in turmoil. But hey..if it was meant to be then we will be together.
so i guess our relationship is sorta open at the moment..i love her, she loves me...we just need to do this for ourselves.
now i typed all that i'm starting to think its kinda stupid and that we are setting our future up for failure. hmm.
my girl and i just took a big break from each other because we want to experience a little more before we actually get married. we still see each other daily..and still of course enjoy each others company
it sucks..but she kinda gave me permission to sleep with another female..sucks for me because i gave her permission to sleep with another guy. i know i'm putting a lot on the line by doing this and we have agreed if and when we actually do go threw with it we will both be tested..it don't matter if a condom was or wasnt used her ass and my ass is getting tested!!
i know we both just want to experience a lil bit more of what life has to offer.. i know by doing this it puts our future relationship in turmoil. But hey..if it was meant to be then we will be together.
so i guess our relationship is sorta open at the moment..i love her, she loves me...we just need to do this for ourselves.
now i typed all that i'm starting to think its kinda stupid and that we are setting our future up for failure. hmm.
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I'll pass on open relationships. I could not handle knowing if my girl was being intimate with another guy emotionally or even physically. And vice versa for her.
And just the thought of it is disturbing imo. All sorts images would play in my head. It would definitely irritate and piss me off.
And just the thought of it is disturbing imo. All sorts images would play in my head. It would definitely irritate and piss me off.
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Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Dec 26 2007, 01:54 PM
Nightcrawler, DTB.
Even then, you've got school to worry about. Catch your ladies when you can.
Even then, you've got school to worry about. Catch your ladies when you can.
and yeah i do have school to worry about, which is why i was looking for some NSA fun
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Originally Posted by nightcrawler7188,Dec 26 2007, 10:12 PM
lol you think i'm BSing 
i have better things to do than BS about stuff like that online. ygpm just now
i have better things to do than BS about stuff like that online. ygpm just now